Dating girl 13 years younger
I wouldn't have wanted to wait 12 years for my partner to get her shit together. If you are just getting it together at 30 you might not feel at all comfortable with other 30 year olds who have had it together for 10 years. On two occasions I was asked for ID at a bar and he wasn't. My wife is my age, and women I've been attracted to have always been within 5 years of my age. i won't be seeing 30 again..the saying goes you regret the ones you don't do...
You might feel much more of a connection with someone who is also just getting it together, but in their late teens like many do. After him, I dated a guy that was 23 years younger (4 years younger than my son). I wouldn't because I'm not going to have much, if anything, in common with somebody 12 years younger or older than I am. I won't judge as long as it's legal and consenting.
That higher sex drive translates, among other things, into being more direct with men.
Many younger guys are driven to women who are 10 years older than they are or more, as these women are often more confident and more sexually driven and passionate than the younger women.I have no dating experience what soever so I'm not speaking from the point of view of knowledge but I could potentially see this. I'm not going to be in the same economic, career, or emotional stage of my life. At that age they have some major decision points to make - going to college? I wouldn't want to get in the way of that decision. I have no advise to offer as I've sadly never been in a relationship. As others have said I would take it slow as friends in the beginning. He must be 50-55 to my 30 and there's no problem there age wise.Plus, I have the history of my dad being about that much older than my mom and he picked her because at the time she didn't have the self-confidence to realize what an asshat he is. I teach high school, and I've had 18 year olds who get accepted to college and turn down the offer because they don't want to leave their boyfriend. One thing I've learned in dealing with people of that age is that you can be great friends and have more in common than you would think possible, but the differences aren't necessarily noticeable right away and they might bother you more than you might think right now. Started off as just being friends but I ended up falling head-over-heels. For example, generally, you try to avoid people with two first names or those who abbreviate the word probably as “probs.” But you never know; that one awful abbreviator could be your soulmate.So, I'm proposing this “8-year rule” in dating as an absolute.